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Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Mommy's Quiet Time by Stephanie from Life Unexpectedly

A guest post by Stephanie Powell

Mommy's Quiet Time

We’re supposed to be perfect. We’re supposed to juggle it all, and make it look like a breeze. We’re supposed to be successful in our job, have (or study toward) a degree, our house is to be spotless, our kids adorable and well-mannered, the garden perfectly-tended, and we ourselves nothing short of top-model material. If I add the hours, 24 aren’t nearly enough.
I personally can push through a stretch like that for a few months, but in the end, there’s a situation close to a full-blown physical and mental break-down. If the thought of having to fold the laundry and taking a shower before bed instead of just falling into the pillows on the spot makes me want to cry, if I think that pulling a t-shirt out of the laundry basket is beyond my strength because I cannot even lift my arm, it’s time for the emergency break.
Yes, I say it: Mommy’s need a break, too! We need to learn to take better care of ourselves, because only then can we take care of our families properly. The kids won’t die from a little dust on the shelf. They won’t suffer being dressed in jeans and a t-shirt that they pull out of the closet by themselves. What will get to them and present a dangerous role-model is seeing their moms stretching themselves paper-thin day after day after day. Just the other day I snapped at my older daughter for some really petty thing. I just lost it and yelled at her. Looking at her eyes after I was done just brought me back to my senses. I pulled her into my arms and apologized. I explained to her that even mommies aren’t perfect and sometimes unfair, but that I knew that yelling at her had been wrong and that I’ll try to be more relaxed next time. She hugged me back, telling me: Mami, you maybe need some quiet time like me when I’m all tired after kindergarten! And yes, my little five-year old proved once again that she can be wise beyond her years. I did need some quiet time.  Just laying on the couch with a cup of tea, reading a book, or taking a nap.
So, I pledge to take some quiet time for myself where I won’t worry about petty things. I’ll use the bath salt my friend has sent me and take a long, hot bath. I will enjoy my chamomile tea and drink it as hot as possible, instead of making it, forgetting it on the counter, and pouring it away in the end. I will enjoy my coffee and a newspaper on the breakfast table and enjoy the peace and quiet. I will allow the hubby to take the kids out to the playground while I stay home without feeling bad about it. I will take the time I need without a bad conscience, because my daughters need a mom who is supportive and patient with them, not someone close to a mental break-down.

Stepanie is a young mother of two little girls and married to an ex-soldier. She is balancing life as a full-time mom with a 40+hour job. You can catch Stephanie blogging at Life, Unexpectedly


  1. I definitely need mommy quiet time, at least a good alone drive in the car or a trip to target on my own! Thanks for sharing, you're a good mama!

  2. It seems like it is really hard to get quiet time even when the little ones are in school. I definitely need quiet time and not to forget my cup of tea every now and then.

  3. I adore moms and I can't wait to be one. I know it's not going to be easy but I know it's the greatest thing ever. Yay! to Super Moms!

  4. So true and will say moms do need quiet time to just decompress and re-energize. I think we have all been there and you said it quite perfectly and thank you for that gentle reminder here!!

  5. Totally agree! Mommies need quiet time and a little more "me" time. Great post!

  6. Thank you, everyone! My kids teach me so much every day, even to take care of myself. :-)