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Tuesday, April 16, 2013

A Perfect Space by Brittany from oh my darlin & i

A guest post by BrittanyRobinson:

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A Perfect Space

As a high school student several years ago I was asked by a guidance counselor why I had yet to apply to a college and what I planned on doing with my life. I told them I wanted to be a mother. This guidance counselor, who happened to be a woman had a look of complete shock and disbelief. I am pretty sure she believed I was letting all the women down who had worked so hard to get me out of the household. 
Becoming a parent has not changed my mind in the slightest. In fact it has only reinforced my want and belief that I need to be at home with my daughter during these early years. The decision for me to stay at home full time was not an easy one and required simplifying our lives. We breastfeed, cloth diaper, and make our own baby food when needed. 
When my daughter was around 3 months old my husband and I decided it would be best for the family for me to finish the college degree that I started four years ago. With job security a constant fear in our minds we think it makes sense for both of us to be able to work if needed.
This means that now I am a full time mother and college student. I attend college online mostly but sometimes on campus when I can't avoid it. This puts a whole other level of stress onto an already stressful life. My days consist of spending time with my daughter, teaching, playing, and cuddling. While my evenings are filled with reading, studying, and test taking. My nights are late and my mornings are very early but it is worth it to spend the early years with my daughter. Yes this leaves little time for me but this is how I see it..
Motherhood is the most important thing you will ever do. Ever. We are raising future generations here. I want to raise my child. Full time. Women of my generation are pounded with the idea that we are independent, we can make our own money, and to never depend on a man. But mama's hear me out on this one.. Would it not be best to have a career that you can walk away from? Raise your babies for a year or a few years? It is ok for us to depend on our husbands for financial support.
Becoming a mother is the most natural, femininely empowering thing you can ever experience. Embrace it whole-heartedly. 
Please know this though, I am not saying working mothers are doing it wrong. I know several working mothers who are doing it oh so right and spend every moment they are not at work with their children. They do not love them any less nor are those babies any less taken care of. Everybody does what they can with the situation that they are given.
About the Author:

Brittany Robinson is a 23 year old full time college student, stay at home mother, wife, and blogger. She blogs at oh my darlin baby & i about her and her daughter Clementine's days together, vintage, and whimsy. Join them every Sunday for according to clementine where she shares a favorite moment of the past week from her 13 month old's point of view. 

8 comments :

  1. I know when you are coming from, being a parent and student is hard. It is also very good to have a career backup, because sometimes marriaged break down, and sometimes husbands end up not being able to work or provide. It is nice to see a post from someone promoting being a mom first.

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    1. Thank you Andrea! As much as I love & wish I could be a stay at home mother forever.. it is hard to rationalize it with the way things are with jobs these days. I am also lucky to have an extremely supportive husband.

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  2. Funny, my guidance counselor told me that I was destined to a life of laziness and no success because I participated in senior ditch day - even though I had done and turned in all of my homework before ditch day happened! Guidance counselors have no credibility in my book.

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    1. hahaha. I guess their goal is to get as many students into college that they can. ;)

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  3. I hear you girl! I'm a single parent during the week, active duty Navy and mom. Its hard, but it gets done. You're right, being a mother is the single most impowering, feminine thing a woman can expierence and I truly cannot wait to live it all day (once I'm done with my contact). Its such a rewarding experience.!

    Xoxo,
    Whitney @ hugbakelove.com

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    1. That is awesome! Sounds like you are a super busy mom.. lol. And I am so lucky to be able to stay home all day. I will hate for the time to come when we don't spend our days together.

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  4. Trying to follow you but can't find your follow button.

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    1. hello! i am on wordpress so if you have wordpress you can follow me at my blog if not there is my facebook page you can like or you can follow me on blog lovin & my blog lovin button is to the right side of my blog!

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